Faith After Miscarriage: Finding Healing When Hope Hurts
When you’ve prayed for a baby and the answer doesn’t come the way you hoped—it shakes you.
It challenges everything you thought you knew about faith, timing, and God’s goodness.
This month, as we honor Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness, I wanted to hold space for those stories—the ones that rarely get told out loud.
Stories like Cate Purvis’s.
Cate is a birth and miscarriage doula, childbirth educator, and author who has walked through sixteen miscarriages and welcomed four miracle babies. Her story is raw, redemptive, and full of the kind of faith that only comes from wrestling with God in the dark.
She reminds us that God doesn’t cause our pain—but He never wastes it.
In our conversation on the Faith Over Pharma podcast, Cate shared how she once cried out in anger, convinced God had abandoned her. What she discovered instead was a Father who whispered, “I can take it.”
That realization changed everything.
It gave her—and so many others—permission to grieve honestly, to bring every question and every tear before the Lord, knowing that He can handle it.
Faith and Grief Can Coexist
Cate and I talked about how the church often doesn’t know what to do with grief. Too often, women are told to “be strong” or to “trust God’s plan,” when what they really need is presence, compassion, and room to fall apart.
She reminded me that grief and faith aren’t opposites. Jesus knew He would raise Lazarus, and He still wept.
That truth brings comfort to every woman who has wondered if her tears mean she doesn’t believe enough. They don’t. They mean you’re human—and deeply loved.
How to Support Someone Walking Through Loss
One of the most powerful parts of our conversation was Cate’s wisdom on how to truly show up for someone who’s lost a baby.
She said it’s okay to say nothing.
It’s okay to simply sit in silence, hold a hand, or bring a meal.
Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is acknowledge the baby—ask if they named them, call them by name, and remind the mother that she is still a mother.
Our discomfort shouldn’t silence her story.
When we recognize her motherhood, even in loss, we restore dignity to both her and her child.
A Redemptive Kind of Hope
Cate’s journey has become a ministry—helping women and churches understand how to walk through miscarriage with grace, truth, and compassion.
Her message is simple but powerful:
God is still good. He is still faithful. And He is still redeeming what was lost.
If you’re walking through loss right now, or love someone who is, let this be your reminder:
You are not alone.
God sees every tear.
And He will meet you in the middle of the ashes with beauty you never expected.
If this resonates with you, here are a few ways to connect:
- Join Our Faith Over Pharma Community: Find hope, healing and encouragement on Substack – where faith meets holistic wellness and women rediscover the way God designed their bodies to thrive.
- Tune Into the Faith Over Pharma Podcast: Listen to real stories and faith-filled conversations that challenge the mainstream narrative and empower you to heal naturally – body, mind, and spirit.
- Work With Me: Get personalized support to restore your hormones, balance your energy, and rebuild your health from the inside out – the way God intended.
