Have you ever felt called to something so deeply by God, yet the path to get there seemed uncertain or even impossible? If you’ve been on the rollercoaster of trying to conceive after a vasectomy reversal, you’re not alone. My husband and I have walked this journey—through hope, heartbreak, and a two-year wait filled with challenges that tested our faith and perseverance.

This blog post shares our story, a testament to trusting God’s plan, navigating the struggles of infertility, and ultimately welcoming our miracle baby into the world. If you’re feeling frustrated, exhausted, or wondering if it will ever happen for you, I hope our journey will bring you encouragement, practical insights, and renewed faith.

When Five Kids Felt Like Enough (Until It Didn’t)

When my husband and I met in 2008, blending our family meant raising five kids together. At the time, we were sure our family was complete. A vasectomy seemed like the right choice, a practical decision for a growing family with no plans for more children.

Fast forward seven years, and something shifted. As our children grew older, I felt a longing that I couldn’t shake—the desire to nurture and love another child. Adoption seemed like the answer. I spent countless hours researching, and my heart broke reading stories of children who desperately needed homes.

One night, my husband said something that changed everything: “Wouldn’t it be cheaper to have one of our own?” It was a lighthearted comment, but it sparked a deep conversation. That same week, God placed the desire for another child on both our hearts, and we knew it wasn’t just coincidence—it was a calling.

Finding the Right Surgeon: A Leap of Faith

Vasectomy reversal wasn’t something we had ever considered. After a lot of research, we found Dr. Sheldon Marks, a specialist renowned for helping couples conceive after vasectomy reversals. Financially, it seemed impossible. Yet, through God’s provision, the exact amount of our tax refund matched the cost of the procedure. It was the first of many moments that reminded us God was in control.

The surgery was successful, and we were filled with hope. But as the months turned into years, that hope was tested.

Waiting on God in the Hardest Seasons

The wait was brutal. Each month brought another negative test, and I began questioning if something was wrong with me. At 39, time felt like an enemy. After months of no progress, I experienced a miscarriage—a devastating loss that left me broken and questioning everything.

During a season of waiting and military deployments, I leaned heavily into my faith. I clung to Jeremiah 29:11:

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Despite the heartbreak, I started practicing gratitude daily, shifting my focus to the blessings around me. It wasn’t easy, but it transformed my perspective.

Letting Go of Control and Trusting God

After a failed round of IUI and side effects from fertility medications, I realized I was trying to take control of something that belonged in God’s hands. We decided to stop medical treatments and focus on holistic health—nourishing our bodies, reducing stress, and trusting in God’s timing.

In March 2020, as the world shut down, something miraculous happened: I got a positive pregnancy test. Looking back, I see how God orchestrated everything perfectly. He used that quiet season to give me time to rest, rejuvenate, and prepare for the arrival of our miracle baby.

Welcoming Our Miracle Baby

On December 23, 2020, we welcomed Emma into the world. Her name means “My God has answered,” and she is a constant reminder of God’s faithfulness. Waiting for her taught us invaluable lessons about patience, trust, and leaning on God in uncertain times.

If you’re walking the path of trying to conceive after a vasectomy reversal, I see you. The waiting, the heartbreak, and the longing can feel overwhelming. But know this: God placed the desire for a child on your heart for a reason. His plans are greater than anything we can imagine, and He is with you every step of the way.

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Your miracle baby is closer than you think, and I’m honored to support you as you trust God’s perfect timing.