Waiting for your baby is never easy, but when the holidays roll around, that wait can feel unbearable. The twinkling lights, joyful gatherings, and baby-centered celebrations can magnify the emptiness you feel inside.

If this Christmas feels heavier than ever, I want you to know—I see you. I remember the pain of waiting, the ache of longing for a baby while the world seemed to celebrate everything I was still hoping for. And I also remember the moment when God whispered, “Do you trust me?”

This post is for you, the woman who is waiting, who is weary, and who is wondering why God hasn’t answered yet. You are not alone, and you are not forgotten.

Why the Holidays Feel Extra Hard When You’re Waiting

The Christmas season is filled with moments that can feel like salt in an open wound.

• The holiday cards with baby announcements and matching pajamas.
• The family gathering where someone casually asks, “So, when are you having kids?”
• The ache of seeing another year pass without your prayers being answered.

It’s even harder because Christmas is centered around the miracle of a baby—Jesus, born after generations of waiting. And here you are, waiting for your own miracle, wondering if God has forgotten you.

I remember that pain all too well. The years of negative tests, the crushing disappointment, the prayers that felt like they were bouncing off the ceiling. One of my hardest moments came when, after months of heartbreak, I found out I was being deployed to the Middle East for six months. My dream of a baby had to be put on hold—again.

I sat in my kitchen, sobbing, angry at God. Why did You put this desire in my heart, only to make me wait even longer?

And in that moment, I heard Him say: “Do you not trust me? Look at all I have done.”

It wasn’t the answer I wanted, but it was the one I needed. Because even in the waiting, God was working. And He is working in your wait, too.

How to Navigate the Holidays When You’re Still Waiting

If you’re struggling to find hope this Christmas, here are some mindset shifts and practical steps that helped me—and I pray they help you too.

1. Focus on Gratitude

I know it sounds cliché, but gratitude is powerful. When I started focusing on the little blessings in my life, I began to see them everywhere.

Start a simple gratitude journal. Each day, write down one thing—big or small—that you’re thankful for. Maybe it’s the warmth of your coffee, the glow of Christmas lights, or a kind word from a friend.

📖 “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” — 1 Thessalonians 5:18

Even in the waiting, there is something to be thankful for. And gratitude has the power to shift your entire perspective.

2. Set Healthy Boundaries

It’s okay to protect your heart.

• If certain family gatherings are too painful, it’s okay to decline.
• If social media pregnancy announcements trigger you, take a break.
• If conversations feel overwhelming, give yourself permission to step away.

Jesus Himself took time to withdraw and rest when He needed to. You don’t have to say yes to every invitation or engage in every conversation.

📖 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28

Your peace matters. Guard it well.

3. Create Your Own Joy

Waiting for a baby doesn’t mean you have to put joy on hold.

• Light candles and say a prayer for your future child.
• Start a Christmas tradition that fills your heart with warmth.
• Spend a quiet night wrapped in a cozy blanket, listening to worship music.

Joy isn’t just something that happens to us—it’s something we cultivate.

4. Stay Connected to God

I know it can feel like God is silent. And that silence is hard.

But He is still with you. He hears your every prayer, even the ones whispered through tears.

Find ways to connect with Him:

• Read a verse each morning.
• Listen to worship music.
• Take a walk and just talk to Him.

Even if all you can say is, “God, I’m hurting.” That’s enough. He hears you.

📖 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” — Philippians 4:6-7

5. Lean on Community

You don’t have to carry this alone.

Find a friend, a support group, or a community of women who understand this journey. Surround yourself with people who can hold space for you without trying to “fix” your pain.

📖 “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” — Galatians 6:2

If you need someone to talk to, I’m here. My Facebook group is filled with women who understand. You are not alone in this.

Your Miracle Is Worth the Wait

Friend, I know this wait is hard. I know Christmas can feel like a painful reminder of what’s missing.

But I also know this: God hasn’t forgotten you.

Your story isn’t over. Your miracle might be just around the corner.

And in the meantime, He is holding you, shaping you, and preparing you for something greater than you can imagine.

Trust His timing. Trust His heart.

And know that I am praying for you every step of the way.

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