Waiting can feel like the hardest part of the fertility journey. The frustration, the endless tests, the uncertainty—sometimes it feels like your dreams are slipping further away with each passing month. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, wondering if it will ever happen for you, I want you to know you’re not alone.

In this blog post, I’m sharing an incredibly powerful conversation I had with Danielle Koonce, a homeschooling mom of four, who, along with her husband, is walking the path of fertility after a vasectomy reversal. Their story is a testament to faith, patience, and trusting God’s plan even in the face of uncertainty. Danielle’s experience with waiting—and how she leans into faith during this time—can be a huge encouragement to you if you’re feeling the weight of this journey.

Why Did You Decide to Pursue a Vasectomy Reversal?

Danielle and her husband’s story isn’t one you might expect when it comes to fertility. They’ve already been blessed with four beautiful children, but they both felt God calling them to expand their family further. Their decision to look into a vasectomy reversal came during a season of deep reflection and change in their lives. They were in a place where God was revealing more to them than ever before—stripping away old habits, environments, and mindsets to prepare them for something bigger.

At the time, Danielle and her husband had just moved their family into an RV to focus on getting their lives aligned with God’s plan, which led them to purchase a house and work tirelessly to restore it. Money was tight, but they still felt the pull to have more children.

And yet, the cost of a vasectomy reversal was out of reach. But they trusted in God’s plan, and with each step of faith, God provided exactly what they needed.

The Struggles of Waiting: Doubt, Stress, and Unanswered Prayers

Danielle shares the vulnerability and heartache of the waiting period. These are the real, raw feelings that come with the territory of fertility struggles. It’s not just about biology; it’s about the emotional toll of trusting God when the results aren’t coming as fast as you want them to.

“It’s so hard to let go and let God,” Danielle says. The weight of wanting something so badly—whether it’s a baby or any other desire—can feel unbearable. And in those moments, doubt creeps in. Danielle, who already has four children, doesn’t know if another child will come or if God has something else planned for her. But she has faith that either way, God will fulfill her desires and that His plan is better than anything she could orchestrate herself.

What Do You Do in the Waiting?

For those of you struggling in the waiting period, wondering if your dream will ever come true, I asked Danielle to share her best advice.

“Have faith.” That’s Danielle’s biggest takeaway. Faith, trust, and patience—those are the pillars she leans on when doubt starts to rise. But she also offers some incredibly practical advice:

Give yourself grace: The process isn’t always easy. Danielle reminds us to give ourselves grace, especially when the journey feels long and tiring. Don’t be too hard on yourself for what you can’t control.

Love your spouse well: Waiting can put a strain on your relationship, especially when you’re not aligned on your fertility journey. Danielle emphasizes the importance of showing love and appreciation for your spouse, even when the waiting feels unbearable.

Take care of yourself: For Danielle, this means focusing on her health, staying grounded in her faith, and taking time for self-care. She also encourages women to stay connected with God through scripture and prayer during the process.

The Power of Trusting God’s Plan

Danielle’s faith has been stretched in ways she could never have predicted. And through it all, she’s learned to surrender her desire for control and trust that God knows what’s best.

“When you let go of the stress, when you trust God, it’s amazing what He does. You don’t have to carry the weight of trying to control everything,” Danielle says.

This is the key to the journey. Trusting that God has a perfect plan for you, even when it doesn’t make sense in the moment. It’s about having faith that His timing will be right—even if it’s not your timing.

Is Your Faith Being Tested in the Waiting?

If you’re struggling in the waiting period, I want you to remember that your journey isn’t over just because it’s taking longer than you hoped. Keep trusting God, keep having faith, and keep taking one step at a time. The waiting may be tough, but God is faithful to lead you to where you need to be. Just like Danielle, you may not know what’s coming next, but you can trust that God has a purpose and a plan that is greater than anything you can imagine.

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Your miracle baby is closer than you think, and I’m honored to support you as you trust God’s perfect timing.